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Permission To Be A Diva

Posted on: February 14th, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

It’s a shame to call somebody a diva simply because they work harder than everybody else. –Jennifer Lopez

 As you learn to guard your time, know what your time is worth, watch out for yourself and stick to your boundaries you may get labeled a “diva.” This is not a bad thing. In fact, I give you permission to be a diva.

There was a time when I would do anything for anyone at a moments notice. I wanted everyone to “like” me, and I still do. A few years ago, I had signed a contract with one of the biggest companies I had ever signed with. When they said jump, I would jump. No matter what time of day they called I’d answer or call them right back (many times after 8pm at night or on the weekends), if they sent an email I’d email right back. If they asked me to get on a plane tomorrow and be somewhere, I’d clear my schedule and make it happen. I wanted to please.

As women we are people pleasers. We want people to like us. Many times we will drop our own priorities, plans, commitments to ourselves to please someone else. As you get more and more opportunities in this industry, you will learn that you need to find the inner diva and let her come out to protect you and your time. The fantastic part is that doing this, other people will start to treat you and your time like it is valuable and like the diva that you are. This way you can choose what your time gets used for instead of letting others choose. Remember – You teach people how to treat you.

After years of bending over backwards trying to please everyone and as more and more opportunities were coming my way, along with running the gym, I was being pulled in a million different directions. The turning point was a very powerful phone call that gave me permission to be a diva. This was one of the best things that ever happened to me.

Although I had been doing everything I could to accommodate requests and keep everyone happy, during the phone call I was told, “You are acting like a Diva.” I am? Really? Well, ok then…My response, “You are right. I will proudly own the title of Diva no problem” And I did…

I’ll show you Diva. From that moment forward all scheduling had to go through my assistant including scheduling a call with me. I stopped being accessible at a moment’s notice and took my own time back. I had permission to be a diva and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. You’re right I am a “diva,” proudly. I hung up the phone and stood a little taller feeling pretty good about having permission to be a diva.

The definition of “diva” in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary is “a usually glamorous and successful female performer or personality.” Another definition is “a usually glamorous woman who is preeminent in her field of activity.” I’m ok with that…In Italian it literally means Divine. Some synonyms are Goddess, Princess and Queen.

Shortly after this I signed to do another project with another company but kept the lesson I learned that I now had permission to be a diva. I set boundaries on my time, I made sure I was paid what my time was worth and I was not available on a moment’s notice but instead everything went through my assistant. When I showed up to work I gave 100%. Because I had boundaries on my time I felt I could give even more. Diva’s don’t spread themselves too thin, they guard their time making sure they can always bring their best and the people who hire them and work with them can always expect they will get a professional who brings their best to everything they do.

What happened? The companies I worked with started to respect my time and realize that I am very busy. They were happy to pay me what I am worth and when they did have my time I gave them the absolute best I had and they made sure they used it effectively and treated me like the “diva” that I am.

Oh and take note, you can be a diva and still be approachable, giving, easy to get along with and friendly. A diva doesn’t always have to = bitch. Although, if you read my first book you know I’m ok with BITCH too – Be Inspiring Totally Confident and Hot.

Being a diva simply means your own time is valuable and you will protect it, it also means you know how to ask for what you want. If you don’t ask you won’t get it. Being a diva also means that you are a true professional. Being a diva opens more time to spend with friends, family and volunteering for charity work.You are living your life on your own terms, not someone else’s and will be much happier and easier to get along with because of it.

I grant each of you permission to be a Diva!

Act As If and get out of If…Then…Thinking

Posted on: February 11th, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

Act As If 

Get out of “if…then” thinking. Many women are guilty of this “If…Then” thinking when it comes to our bodies. We never stop and enjoy – Now.

In the book, Drive by Daniel Pink he talks about this in relation to management and leading a team in a company. This was interesting stuff which I immediately started to think how I could apply it in our business. He talks about using intrinsic motivators as the way to drive people to give their best long term instead of using “If….Then” motivators or extrinsic motivators.

And then I realized this is also a very powerful concept to use with my clients and the people I coach. In his book, he touches on using this with your health and weight loss as well and it made me think….

Many women are in the mindset of “If…Then.” Especially when it comes to the scale- “If” I weigh X “then” I’ll feel good. Feel Good starting NOW and start to act as if! Start to tune in to how you feel and the intrinsic motivation you have to drive yourself to accomplish what you want to accomplish.

I was actually reminded of this recently because I have a Red Covertible Toyota Solara that I have had for 6 years. It is paid off and I still enjoy it. For my birthday recently I decided to get it all fixed up and get all of the evidence of anything I had ever backed into removed(I am infamous for backing in to things…). For the 6 years I have owned it I had accumulated quite a few dings and I hadn’t been parking it in our garage. I started to think….eventually when I get my next new nice car then I’ll take care of it. But then I realized that I was using “If…Then” thinking. “If” I had a new, nice car, “then” I will park it in the garage and take care of it. I decided that I would get my Toyota fixed up, looking brand new and start parking it in the garage and treat it exactly AS IF it is my brand new dream car. It is amazing how instantly my car now feels like a brand new dream car to me.

This is the same as your body. You will never enjoy your body, if you keep putting off enjoying it until….you weigh X amount of weight or until you are a size such and such….

Are you guilty of “If…Then” thinking? Start to catch yourself and change your mental dialogue. Enjoy your fit female body today and start acting as if and really tune in to how it feels to be fit and feel good about yourself!

Re read the Fit Female Credo in my first book, The Female Body Breakthrough, and keep yourself focused on making progress but also enjoying the progress you have made so far.


 

Time To Write A New Story!

Posted on: January 1st, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

It’s a New Year, a blank slate! Turn the page to start a brand new story for yourself. If you are using the excuse that everyone sets goals and resolutions on the New Year and you don’t want to be like everyone else…why not? Why not use the energy of a new year to stimulate change and growth and decide what you want to happen in 2016?

Plus don’t worry…you won’t be like everyone else if you commit to yourself and actually follow through because as you know most people start the year with good intentions only to waver in their commitment. Don’t be like everyone else but do take advantage of this time of year to create a turning point in your life.

Over the holidays we had friends and family stay with us and saw Alwyn’s brother for the first time in a year. One year ago on New Years Day he had a heart-to-heart talk with a close friend of his and decided “This year I need to make some changes.” He set some very specific goals including to lose 100lbs.

Seeing him this Christmas he was 102 lbs lighter!  Wow! A different person! So proud of him and his commitment! And the best part is that he has confidence to set new goals and changes for 2016 to continue to improve himself.

This was a reminder to me that people do make lifelong changes at this time of year.  Every year we see clients join our gym and finally get on a path to improve their health & fitness. Every year at this time I love to look back at the list of people who joined last January & February and see what progress they have made and what they have accomplished all because they made the decision to take action one year ago.

Alwyn & I have always loved the New Year. In fact, it is one of our favorite holidays! We always take time to write down new goals, create new Vision Boards and set our sights on what we want to happen as the year unfolds ahead of us…what trips to do we want to take, what courses do we want to invest in, what books do we want to read, who do we want to meet, what new skills do we want to learn, what career and financial goals do we want to hit for ourselves personally and for our company and of course as fitness professionals we always have physical goals we want to accomplish.

  • Take time today to write down goals for 2016. Make sure they are important enough to you that you will commit and follow through to make them happen.
  • Create a Vision Board with the goals written on along with pictures that resonate with you representing each goal and place it somewhere you’ll see everyday to keep you focused and remind you of your commitment to yourself for 2016.
  • Take action immediately toward those goals to start your momentum. You can’t set goals and walk away from them. You have to start now to take massive action toward them.

As a coach I love reading, studying and learning what will work best for our clients to get the fastest results in the shortest amount of time. Even more so I always love to coach from a place of having experienced it myself first hand if possible.

In 2015 two of our coaches started our first Spartan Team. I hadn’t done a Spartan Race before and hadn’t planned on it as it really didn’t appeal to me…I was amazed that 30 of our members who they hand picked were game to do this! In all honesty I signed up out of integrity that I couldn’t let 30 of our clients do this without knowing what they were experiencing. I signed up to have the experience as a coach to know what is involved. This was the first time at Results Fitness that I had the perspective of being a part of one of our teams as an athlete with absolutely zero experience with the event and what’s in store, being coached completely, trusting our coaches who do have experience with Spartan races. I had a blast at the race and will sign up for another Spartan Race again but more importantly going through the process I have new ideas of how to coach our clients to conquer a Spartan Race the next time around.

This year at Results Fitness we are offering a chance to dramatically change your life in just 42 days. I’m so excited about this program and what it will do for those who jump onboard for the opportunity to immerse themselves and make the commitment to join us 6 days a week for 6 weeks. The program is influenced by the philosophies we already teach at Results Fitness as it was created by one of our Results Fitness University Affiliate gyms who were named our Business Owners of the Year of 2015, Casey & Gerry Washack who own Next Level Fitness! We wanted to fully endorse them as part of our team by running their program at Results and giving our members the opportunity to experience it!

As I consider my own goals for 2016 I’m ready for my own pendulum to swing away from some of the habits I have fallen into of nutritional free styling (yes even us fitness professionals have our periods of relaxing a little too much…). What better way than to give the Fit in 42 program a go to be able to speak from experience as our clients take on the commitment.

What are your goals in 2016?

Check out Fitin42.com if you are ready to step up your fitness game or call us directly to set up an interview if you are in Santa Clarita at 661-799-7900.

 

Or if you are a fitness professional who is interested in joining our mastermind program to propel your career like Casey & Gerry fill out this form to be considered for our upcoming mentorship which will take place March 8th,9th & 10th- Click Here if you want to be considered for our 2016 Mentorship

 

Make this year your turning point!