Listen up!

Posted on: March 4th, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

 

I absolutely believe that whatever nudge you feel in your soul, that voice telling you to reach for more, that you have something bigger to share with the world is right on and you should listen! If you feel like you keep getting pulled in a certain direction don’t ignore it.

I wouldn’t be where I am if I didn’t tune into my intuition regularly. You know when you are doing exactly what you were meant to do and you also know deep down when you are not. If something doesn’t feel right about your current situation whether it is the career path that you are on or that you’re holding back listen!

There are moments when you get a signal that you know you are on the right path and are exactly where you are supposed to be. You also experience a sense of flow when you are doing what you are meant to be doing.

When I was coaching at the gym these moments would come to me with my clients hearing them have a breakthrough and that I had helped them. Helping my clients overcome obstacles and reach their goals put me on cloud 9. Once I was on the training floor, the day would fly by feeling like I was in a time warp. A good sign that you are in flow is if you never look at the clock, spending your day counting down the minutes until work is done. In fact it is quite the opposite, time seems to speed up when you are truly in your zone of what you are meant to be doing.

Now that I have moved into doing business coaching with other Fitness Entrepreneurs these moments usually happen on a call with one of them or in person at our mastermind.

We had our entire coaching group out last week at our first mastermind event of 2016. When the day starts with Alwyn singing in the morning as we’re getting ready, “I’m on top of the world! Hey!” it’s a reminder of how much we enjoy these mastermind weeks.

Before the mastermind starts I always feel a little anxious about whether we will have enough to teach, will we be able to “fill the time” wanting to give our audience exactly what they came for. This feeling is the same anxious feeling of meeting with a new client or launching a new format for a class. Once the event starts and we get into flow the time flies by and we always inevitably have way too much to share and not enough time.

One of our “moments” of knowing we are doing exactly what we are supposed to be doing was seeing the members of our mastermind group present for each other and how much they had grown as Fitness Entrepreneurs from being a part of this group. Remembering when they first joined the group bright eyed taking it all in and now they were sharing with other members how they achieved success.

Seeing all of our coaching members last week who have taken huge risks, following their own internal nudges of wanting more, opening their own businesses and the success they are experiencing because of the support and ideas they have gained from our mastermind group was a reminder of how powerful it is to follow your gut instincts, listen to that quiet voice in your soul and take action.

This is your reminder to listen! Is it your time to jump?

Permission To Be A Diva

Posted on: February 14th, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

It’s a shame to call somebody a diva simply because they work harder than everybody else. –Jennifer Lopez

As you learn to guard your time, know what your time is worth, watch out for yourself and stick to your boundaries you may get labeled a “diva.” This is not a bad thing. In fact, I give you permission to be a diva.

There was a time when I would do anything for anyone at a moments notice. I wanted everyone to “like” me, and I still do. A few years ago, I had signed a contract with one of the biggest companies I had ever signed with. When they said jump, I would jump. No matter what time of day they called I’d answer or call them right back (many times after 8pm at night or on the weekends), if they sent an email I’d email right back. If they asked me to get on a plane tomorrow and be somewhere, I’d clear my schedule and make it happen. I wanted to please.

As women we are people pleasers. We want people to like us. Many times we will drop our own priorities, plans, commitments to ourselves to please someone else. As you get more and more opportunities in this industry, you will learn that you need to find the inner diva and let her come out to protect you and your time. The fantastic part is that doing this, other people will start to treat you and your time like it is valuable and like the diva that you are. This way you can choose what your time gets used for instead of letting others choose. Remember – You teach people how to treat you.

After years of bending over backwards trying to please everyone and as more and more opportunities were coming my way, along with running the gym, I was being pulled in a million different directions. The turning point was a very powerful phone call that gave me permission to be a diva. This was one of the best things that ever happened to me.

Although I had been doing everything I could to accommodate requests and keep everyone happy, during the phone call I was told, “You are acting like a Diva.” I am? Really? Well, ok then…My response, “You are right. I will proudly own the title of Diva no problem” And I did…

I’ll show you Diva. From that moment forward all scheduling had to go through my assistant including scheduling a call with me. I stopped being accessible at a moment’s notice and took my own time back. I had permission to be a diva and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. You’re right I am a “diva,” proudly. I hung up the phone and stood a little taller feeling pretty good about having permission to be a diva.

The definition of “diva” in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary is “a usually glamorous and successful female performer or personality.” Another definition is “a usually glamorous woman who is preeminent in her field of activity.” I’m ok with that…In Italian it literally means Divine. Some synonyms are Goddess, Princess and Queen.

Shortly after this I signed to do another project with another company but kept the lesson I learned that I now had permission to be a diva. I set boundaries on my time, I made sure I was paid what my time was worth and I was not available on a moment’s notice but instead everything went through my assistant. When I showed up to work I gave 100%. Because I had boundaries on my time I felt I could give even more. Diva’s don’t spread themselves too thin, they guard their time making sure they can always bring their best and the people who hire them and work with them can always expect they will get a professional who brings their best to everything they do.

What happened? The companies I worked with started to respect my time and realize that I am very busy. They were happy to pay me what I am worth and when they did have my time I gave them the absolute best I had and they made sure they used it effectively and treated me like the “diva” that I am.

Oh and take note, you can be a diva and still be approachable, giving, easy to get along with and friendly. A diva doesn’t always have to = bitch. Although, if you read my first book you know I’m ok with BITCH too – Be Inspiring Totally Confident and Hot.

Being a diva simply means your own time is valuable and you will protect it, it also means you know how to ask for what you want. If you don’t ask you won’t get it. Being a diva also means that you are a true professional. Being a diva opens more time to spend with friends, family and volunteering for charity work.You are living your life on your own terms, not someone else’s and will be much happier and easier to get along with because of it.

I grant each of you permission to be a Diva!

 

Act As If and get out of If…Then…Thinking

Posted on: February 11th, 2016 by Rachel Cosgrove

et out of “if…then” thinking. Many women are guilty of this “If…Then” thinking when it comes to our bodies. We never stop and enjoy – Now.

In the book, Drive by Daniel Pink he talks about this in relation to management and leading a team in a company. This was interesting stuff which I immediately started to think how I could apply it in our business. He talks about using intrinsic motivators as the way to drive people to give their best long term instead of using “If….Then” motivators or extrinsic motivators.

And then I realized this is also a very powerful concept to use with my clients and the people I coach. In his book, he touches on using this with your health and weight loss as well and it made me think….

Many women are in the mindset of “If…Then.” Especially when it comes to the scale- “If” I weigh X “then” I’ll feel good. Feel Good starting NOW and start to act as if! Start to tune in to how you feel and the intrinsic motivation you have to drive yourself to accomplish what you want to accomplish.

I was actually reminded of this recently because I have a Red Covertible Toyota Solara that I have had for 6 years. It is paid off and I still enjoy it. For my birthday recently I decided to get it all fixed up and get all of the evidence of anything I had ever backed into removed(I am infamous for backing in to things…). For the 6 years I have owned it I had accumulated quite a few dings and I hadn’t been parking it in our garage. I started to think….eventually when I get my next new nice car then I’ll take care of it. But then I realized that I was using “If…Then” thinking. “If” I had a new, nice car, “then” I will park it in the garage and take care of it. I decided that I would get my Toyota fixed up, looking brand new and start parking it in the garage and treat it exactly AS IF it is my brand new dream car. It is amazing how instantly my car now feels like a brand new dream car to me.

This is the same as your body. You will never enjoy your body, if you keep putting off enjoying it until….you weigh X amount of weight or until you are a size such and such….

Are you guilty of “If…Then” thinking? Start to catch yourself and change your mental dialogue. Enjoy your fit female body today and start acting as if and really tune in to how it feels to be fit and feel good about yourself!

Re read the Fit Female Credo in my first book, The Female Body Breakthrough, and keep yourself focused on making progress but also enjoying the progress you have made so far.